I am still scared witless sometimes- that I will be alone forever- will be in embarrassing circumstances with men who don’t want me and will cheat with multiple girls younger than my youngest daughter . Kathy, I am a guy who has an older lady friend and we are very open with each other. She is still quite beautiful at 70 and is newly divorced.
Is there such a thing as a 20-year-old girl?
I have had friends tell me I don’t need to worry about money because I have a ‘sugar daddy’. “He was my first; I fell ‘in love.’ His longtime girlfriend started calling me about four months in. She would cuss me out and scream at me to leave her man alone, but I couldn’t. After it was over, he still threatened me and tried to sexually harass me for years, visiting and circling my store up to four times a day looking for me.
There just seems to be a paucity of fit, stylish, and “non-taken” single women in this age bracket. To prove his point, my friend and I set up a male & fake female profile on a popular dating site. We counted 20 (!) guys for every woman. Those odds are what’s known as a sucker’s bet. I have a lot of single male friends.
It takes the willingness to be curious about the special things that make others who they are. – If you want to meet a man, you’ll have better luck meeting them if you do things that men enjoy that you also like to do. That’s a classic method for those of either gender at any age.
That said, some younger guys may feel intimidated by where you’re at in life.
I saw her recently and we worked together quite well. I think it helps that I no longer care as much about what she thinks beyond common courtesy. As for women their own age, they confess that those women “look older than I feel.” I think to myself, “Then don’t look in the mirror, bro’.” Let’s be real.
When he will leave the nest I probably will feel lonely, but I will not waste my time looking for a man, because the selection is….. When I think of all the things that I want to do, I left with no time for a man. I am your age and younger men than me are being attracted to me. Initially when I became single again I gave those men attention, after few dates I found them extremely boring. As my good friend pointed out to me… let that foolish girl have him! If I could have him back would I want that?!?
I have no intention of wasting my time and energy parading myself around local establishments. I have tried the grocery store, book store, and car shows in the past. I also no longer converse with men on any online site, and these are non dating sites.
People I understand all that has been said about surviving after divorce. We are forgetting about the money aspect in all this. I am 50, separated, soon to be divorced, 4 kids from 11 to 20. Active father, doting husband, in shape, blah blah.
If you meet and in order to be interesting to the other person you have to “love sex” and “go all night” you are going to be disappointed. Fourth, don’t carry the “baggage” of previous relationships into your next one. If your first husband, boyfriend, etc. cheated or lied or stole from you that does not mean that the next will.
I grew up close to the Canadian boarder in the US and came back years ago. Actually my last “girlfriend” was Canadian. Unfit, overweight, bitchy, demanding, nutty – all get you swiftly eliminated. Maybe in 10 years, but there are plenty of 39 year olds today who will be in your shoes in 10 years .
People can make their free chocies as long as they don’t harm others. She just sounds upset and competitive in a toxic way. I’m curious, with the title of this blog being how tough dating is for women after 50, that you dropped this guy https://hookupinsight.com/ for his poor choice of photos. I thoroughly enjoy the dating, the sex, the affection and the whole game. I wish you who has taken time to read this the best of luck to find someone whom is enough for us and for whom we are enough.
Look in the mirror before trashing women. Go to any high school reunion of 20 years or more. The women look far better than the men. Most of us over 50 men have just as much dating issues as you do. – If you go to bars, you’re going to be far more likely to meet men with alcohol problems and who sit around too much.
For more committed and public relationships, men looked for women closer to their own age. Even if you haven’t gotten married or had kids by 50, there’s no reason to rule them out entirely. There are plenty of couples who tie the knot or have kids later in life. If those things are important to you, don’t be shy about making that known when you start getting serious with someone.
I have to say though that I once knew a man who was 70 that looked nothing like his age, was sweet, outgoing, and funny. I could see myself dating him but the circumstances weren’t right. Now and then someone like that may strike your fancy but generally not having a great difference in age is probably a good idea. Now, during my marriage, I was still attracted to women my own age, or close to it. I never acted on those attractions, but looked inside as to why they were still there during a seemingly happy marriage. Once I got to 50, I began to appreciate and enjoy the company of women closer to my own age.